Here are some books I’ve gotten some helpful insights from, organized by topic. Some are academic, some are advice, some are memoirs. Take what’s helpful to you and leave the rest. 

General: 

• The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

• Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking

• Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

• Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High

• The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact

• Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live

• Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

Grief: 

• Tuesdays with Morrie

• Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief

• The Year of Magical Thinking

• It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand 

Depression: 

• Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope

• The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

• The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living

• Self Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

Anxiety: 

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Made Simple

• Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks

• Hope and Help for Your Nerves

• Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worry

• The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You

• Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

• Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind

• Stop Overthinking: 23 Techniques to Relieve Stress, Stop Negative Spirals, Declutter Your Mind, and Focus on the Present

Couples & Marriage: 

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

• Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

• The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships

• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

• Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love

• The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

• Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

• Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

• The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

Parenting:

• Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to be.

Children: 

• Play Therapy Activities: 101 Play-Based Exercises to Improve Behavior and Strengthen the Parent-Child Connection

• The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity

• Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes your Biology, and How You Can Heal

• Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention-Deficit Disorder

Trauma:

• No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

• It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

• Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse

• The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

• 101 Trauma-Informed Interventions: Activities, Exercises and Assignments to Move the Client and Therapy Forward

• Trauma and Recovery: the Aftermath of Violence - from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

• What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

Addiction: 

• Addicted? Recognizing Destructive Behavior Before It’s Too Late

• Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction